Okay, so this chapter had a LOT of highlighter marks. And pencilled in notes. And aha moments.
Hoodwinked – Myth #4: Motherhood Is All-Consuming and All-Fulfilling. Or maybe not. I love the way the author writes this chapter, because she is just so honest about her journey. It hasn’t been as shiny and sparkly fun as we all imagine, but a lot of us never actually say those words out loud. We don’t want to feel judged, even though we’ve all been there at one point or another.
She encourages us to find our own village of moms who will be honest with us about where they are, or with the low moments they’ve had, and what they did to get beyond them. And to find people we can be honest with as well. And we should be willing to be prayer warriors for these women as well.
We are encouraged to raise our children from our knees. Now before you get your knickers in a knot, she doesn’t mean as a servant to them. She means to do all of this with God at our sides. He parted the oceans and had a man swallowed by a whale. Surely he can get you through today.
I think one of my favourite quotes from this chapter is, “just because you don’t love some of the tasks of child rearing doesn’t mean you don’t love your child.” Wow. Just wow. You would think that might be common sense, but we are often lead to believe that you have to love everything about someone to truly love them. Which is a farce. But still, when I look at my kids, it feels like since I love them unconditionally, I should love everything motherhood entails. But potty training?!? Who loves potty training?!? Or those phases with the talking back and eye rolls?!? That doesn’t mean that you don’t love your child, you just don’t like their behaviour. And that’s okay. That’s actually normal.
I believe that the encouragement to find your village, utilize those other moms for a shoulder, advice, prayer or just to vent to. And be there for them to do the same. Don’t replace God with them, just let God use you to help each other get through this. These women have crossed your path because its part of His divine plan. Let them in. All the way in. You won’t regret it!
Heavenly Father, I thank you for the women you have brought into my life. I am so grateful for all the wisdom and support we can offer each other. And Lord, for those women who are still searching for their village, I pray that they would find even just one person that they can be real with. God, help us all to be real about parenting. And let us feel you there, every step of the way. We are not alone in this, and we thank you for that. In your name. Amen.
If you have any prayer requests, I would be honored to life you up to God today. Please do not hesitate to ask!