Chapter 2 in Hoodwinked: 10 Myths of Motherhood has the very first myth that they debunk. The myth that mothering is natural, easy and instinctive. And some days it is. Those other days, well… The quote that starts this chapter says “Mother is a verb, not a noun.”
We are always in action. I was laying in bed the other morning, thinking that I finally know why I don’t want to get out of bed in the morning. As long as I lay in my little haven, I can pretend that I don’t have a to-do list that uses an entire forest of paper. That the laundry isn’t piling up, because I can’t see it. I don’t have to think about food, because the kitchen is at the other end of the house. But the minute my feet hit the floor… Then it starts. My day begins. And it doesn’t stop until I get back into that little haven. And I have many beautiful moments mixed in with the to-do’s.
But juggling as those balls isn’t instinctive. Knowing the right words to soothe your little one’s ouchies while not burning dinner is a skill I did not learn in home ec class.
In this chapter, Ruth talks about how she had her dream of motherhood all planned out. Except reality seemed to be the exact opposite. And how “we don’t come out of the womb hardwired with wisdom and experience. We come into the world as foreigners who have to figure things out as we grow up.”
Life isn’t always natural, easy or instinctive. Motherhood is part of life. Yep, lightbulb moment right there. Why should I have to feel each and every day that I am failing at something that is supposed to come so easily? It shouldn’t come so easy. Anything that is worth it requires time, practice, sacrifice and effort. My kids are worth the world to me. Common sense would then dictate that it would require a lot of time, practice, sacrifice and effort. And lots of prayer!
Ladies, if you have fallen prey to the myth that to be a good mom, you should be perfect at it right out of the gate, please stop. We are not perfect. You already know that there are no perfect people. So why do we beat ourselves up trying to attain a goal that is never going to be realistic?
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Heavenly Father, I lift up all of those parents who are exhausted. Who are bone weary of trying to do it all. Let them come to you, and be restored. Refresh their perspective on your expectations and fill their hearts to overflowing with your love Lord. In your mighty name. Amen.
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